In which I do nothing

[fahye]

I can't walk into a music shop without buying something. It's awful. Somehow today I have acquired the best of U2 1990-2000, the best of the Red Hot Chilli Peppers, the Australian cast recording of Cats, and another volume of Confidential Confessions. Tokyo Babylon had sold out and Demon Diary 7 was nowhere to be seen ;_;

Mel - TMM 7 is out. Ichigo is wearing something that looks alarmingly like a pink wedding dress. I had to cover my eyes before the fluff corroded them.

Am drinking tea at a crazy rate and half-heartedly considering studying.

My brother has taken over Dimitri and has renamed him ARWEN. I am appalled.

Also...I had a long conversation about homosexuality with my mother today, and still couldn't find a way to tell her I'm bi. I think I'm just kind of hoping she'll ask me flat out, because that involves no effort on my part. (It got spurred by her telling me about this big controversy because Playschool showed one of its 'through the windows' things where a girl talked about her "mummy and other mummy" and all these conservative twits went up in arms)

Comments

[not-in-denial.livejournal.com]

I remember coming out to my mother. *pause* It went like this:

Erin: Mum, I'm bisexual.
Mother: That's nice, what do you want for dinner?
Erin: *deflates*

...such a nonevent. >> Although it's kind of good that way.

[tammaiya.livejournal.com]

What was your mum's view on homosexuality? I HAVE told my mum but she said it was a phase. Er. I think she's repressed all knowledge of it, actually. Whereas other people who shall not be named's mothers said "okay" and "whatever makes you happy" respectively. *pout*

[fahye.livejournal.com]

I asked her what she'd say if one of us was gay, but she thought I was referring to my brother *headdesk* She said she wouldn't love him any less, but she'd be worried that his life would be difficult.

She went on about how insecure and difficult it must be having alternate sexuality in your teens.

Me: *thinks about her friends* *tries not to smile*

[ryokophoenix.livejournal.com]

Wah.
*dies*

[fahye.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Why wah?

[not-in-denial.livejournal.com]

o.0; Insecure and difficult? Dude, quick, where are these teens with insecurity and difficulty due to their sexuality? I want to meet some and confuse theme mo--I mean, reassure them. >>

[tammaiya.livejournal.com]

Hee! Yeah, I'd say we have that market pretty well covered, there.

[schiarire.livejournal.com]

Dude, that is exactly what my own dear mumsy thinks about it.

[etrangere.livejournal.com]

*wincing* Yeah; right there with you.

The funny thing is my parents don't even think of themselves as conservative people. But when the conversation turns to homosexuality...

Thought I do think I'll keep on waiting until I can tell them, 'I'm with this person'. I don't think they would understand me if I told 'em I knew I was bi thought I hadn't been with a woman yet.

[fahye.livejournal.com]

:D You understand!

*projects*

Mum: So how do you KNOW?
Me: Uh...I just do?

[halcyon-libra.livejournal.com]

My friend had the exact same problem. She wanted to come out to her catholic family, but she wanted to have a girlfriend first so she could have "proof" that she's gay. In the end they were fine with it, but they're not your family, so reactions will always differ.

Ask her how does she KNOW she's straight. I hate it when people think that homosexuality is some abnormality.

[ryokophoenix.livejournal.com]

There is an incredible amount of people giving up 'coming put' stories here....XD

There is no way I could ever tell my mum. At least, not until I moved out. I mean for christ's sake, mum said I couldnt marry a japanese man because it'd be "too wierd". I can just imagine her reaction to bisexuality...she's quite closeminded.
Not until I'm elsewhere or its unavoidable. I just cant.

[izumihydra.livejournal.com]

am trying very hard not to hate your mother.

the best thing i can suggest is get really opinionated on issues. if she realises she has a daughter who's pro-gay, pro-choice, anti-howard, pro-marrying asians, etc, she'll probably be more careful with what she says and it won't be as much of a shock to her when you DO come out. just some advice? it must suck so much. i'm really lucky surrounded by people who i know would approve and support. *HUGGIES*

[littledust.livejournal.com]

Try watching the Utena movie sometime. The forces of the cosmos decree that one or both of your parents will walk in on the last five minutes of the movie every single time you watch it. If THAT won't raise some eyebrows, I don't know WHAT will. XD

[fahye.livejournal.com]

That IS an interesting idea. However, my mother is perfectly aware of the fact that I love Queer As Folk and has sat through several painfully explicit scenes, both gay and lesbian, with me.

Possibly she is in denial.

[tammaiya.livejournal.com]

... possibly she is just biding her time? You never know, this may be her being tactful and waiting for you to tell her yourself.

[littledust.livejournal.com]

Ah. See, I don't watch TV, and I don't buy many movies, so Mom was kind of like "Ummmm..." XD;;

[min1979.livejournal.com]

Throwing in a 'coming out' story for you, my mother has spent a lot of time convincing herself that her outlook on anyone saying "I'm gay" is "so?". It's not, but she thinks it is, so her reaction was a weird mixture of I'm-uncomfortable-but-not-admitting-it-to-myself and do-whatever-the-fuck-you-like. ^___^### Parents should issue questionnaires every few years once a person hits 12. "Are you a) smoking b) drinking c) taking mind altering substances d) gay, bisexual, or otherwise engaging in sexual practices that may be considered unorthodox. ie., anything other than low-stage pubescent gropings and d)ii. will you actually stab me if I tell you it's a stage or just THREATEN violence."

As for Playschool >_> I didn't see that, but I heard about it. Some people need to be beaten into submission with something nasty. (What I heard was, 'there have been complaints about mention of a HOMOSEXUAL COUPLE OMG on PlaySchool')

the two cents

[izumihydra.livejournal.com]

firstly,
for the play school story, here:
http://www.abc.net.au/news/newsitems/s1122124.htm

my ma is pretty damn suspicious. she asked me straight out once. i freaked, said i was busy and could we talk about it another time, which is as good an answer as any. and she always goes out of her way to tell me about what great friends she is with the gay guy at work.
i'm really lucky though, when it comes down to it, because i KNOW my ma is as liberal as they come. i eavesdropped on her ranting very angrily when howard wants to ban same-sex marriages last week. and my dad couldn't care less about such things, so i guess it's just a matter of time till i tell them i'm bi. ^_^ Mel gets tonnes of pity and support, though, because she's in a really shit situation. *HUG*

as far as school goes - it's bad. rumours spread, people giggle as you pass, or send harrassing emails. and that's after just affection and hand holding. i'm just really grateful i've got a group who's as supportive as they come, because it gives me some distance from the bigots.

[ashen_key]

Just because I'm in denial about maths study, thought I'd add my little two cents. Just because. And then I will try and get back to making Galahad sappy for you. Or trying. Bloody boy doesn't know HOW. Mordred has no problem, but Galahad? *glares at him*

Anyway. Coming. I told my mother that I was bi...last year sometime. IN the car before watching a Russian movie.
Me: Mum...what would you say if I was bi?
Mum: Eh. Wouldn't really care. Just don't say you are or you aren't until you're about twenty. Now, where do we park?

Of course, not sure if she remembers or not. I sometimes make little comments about actresses on TV and stuff just to see, and she doesn't seem to notice. Though Dad gave me an odd look when I was agreeing with him over the attractivness of the girl-machine in Terminator Three. I think Mum just thinks that it's their own fault for sending me to an all-girls school, since she mentioned once that she and dad actually thought about the possibiltiy when they enrolled me in year one. And promptly decided that education was more important then sexuality. *shrugs and goes back to ignoring her studying*

[fahye.livejournal.com]

*ignores own study*

As long as ONE of them is sappy I'm sure it'll work. I have a hankering for sap :D

[ashen_key]

Excellent. Mordred adores being sappy. Should be up by tonight.

It seems I missed a good and lengthy conversation.

[amayonolune.livejournal.com]

My mother when I told her I'd dated a girl said,
'OK. Just watch who you tell that to.'
me:'yes I know. I will. I'm telling this to you because it's you.'
In my mind:
'whatisthatallitcan'tbeallithoughti'dgetawholeletureaboutstuffandthingsandconvincingandcounsilingwhatthe'
..............I'm glad to have a mother like this.
Maybe you could tell MY mum. And maybe you won't feel so guilty?
............................
Hye it's a thought.
none the less it's hard. I suppose.
..............................The day will come. Just wait. There's no need to rush. Take it slowly. Your mother might even be able to handle it.

Re: It seems I missed a good and lengthy conversation.

[fahye.livejournal.com]

I'm sure she'd be able to handle it. The hard thing is finding a conventient way to tell her. And the longer I put it off, the more she'll ask why I didn't tell her earlier...

[amayonolune.livejournal.com]

I told my mother when we were having one of those
'I'll tell you what's been going through my mind and you tell me what's been going through your ming for the past several decades' moments.
Our household has frequent deep and meaningful talk sessions late at night for no apparent reason.
But then I told her again in the middle of Chinatown in Sydeny again. So I'm sure whatever you think is the oppotune moment.
Don't be stressed about leaving it off though. Deal with the 'why didn't you tell me earlier when it comes'. You can only tell her that 'you wanted to, but you just didn't know how to say it. ' which is the truth. niet. I'm sure it'll all be fine.