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Things that are good:

- revue!
- revue members, who are unfailingly awesome and my new favourite bunch of people <3
- the amount of free time RPAers have during this block
- chocolate from the college vending machine

Things that are less good:

- being so tired you manage to sleep through twenty solid minutes of alarm-beeping*
- being so tired your ability to write shrivels up and dies, just as you gain the precious sliver of free time you need to write the thing that is due on MONDAY
- my complete inability to Work Out Relationships, even when there IS someone I kind of like :(
- blood is actually very complicated (who knew!) and this block is going to take some serious study to get my head around

*Actually, I blame this on the fact that I am learning to sleep through the crazy racket that occurs outside my window at all hours of the night, but especially the trucks that reverse into the service entrance at 5:30am and make beeping sounds JUST LIKE my alarm.

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I'm having an introvert-recharging day to recover from the intensely social nature of Med Revue, and Work My Shit Out. I have a tendency to freeze when under too much pressure and just let stupid little things build up, so I'm trying to actually knock a few things over today, despite the fact that my motivation levels are at the 'read webcomics, watch Sports Night and overhaul icon collection' point.

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- my complete inability to Work Out Relationships, even when there IS someone I kind of like :(

Wow, you rarely seem to like anyone you've gotta spill on this!

What I've learnt is there isn't much more to it than this: You make it very obvious that you like them or even, god forbid, tell them, hopefully they do so back and boom! voila! stuff happens. If they don't like you back you feel a bit stupid for a little while and then you move on.

I was amazed how long it took me to figure that out. I always thought it was so complicated! :)

But I SUCK at making it obvious. Really. Really, really. And apparently my normally-quite-healthy personal confidence and self esteem fly out of the window when it comes to people liking me, so I just assume that they don't, and so don't want to say anything.

I am so BAD AT THIS GAME :)

Ha ha yeah I used to be like that too. I also had the opposite problem, I used to suck at picking on the obvious or not so obvious clues - I'm still not that brilliant but I've improved a lot. Over the years I learnt little clues. Maybe you could try working them in reverse because they are subtle and allow you to save face if you realise they don't like you back:

For me the definitive test involves the most wonderful piece of furniture in the world of flirting: the couch. If I'm sitting on a couch and with nobody else (or at least with a lot of room) and a girl I'm interested in chooses to sit right next to me like almost or actually touching I know I'm in. The other one is accidental touching, if you accidentally touch someone and they pull away immediately you're screwed. Of course there is simple things like complimenting them or choosing to talk to them over anyone else for practically the whole night. Then of course there is all that body language stuff that you've probably all heard before. Of course it is more an art than a science with the chances of false positives and negatives but you begin to get feeling for it after a while. If someone as flirtationally challenged as I was can figure it out (well some of it anyway) I have hope for everybody! Maybe it also helps if you don't think about it too much and just do what comes naturally, maybe there is a psychological block there that is making you hold back.

Anyway good luck with that :)