Or move to NZ... we may not have gay marriage but we have the Civil Union Act which gives queer (and straight) couples the same rights as 'married' couples. Plus we have the Care of Children Act which means that when my legally wedded girl has our baby I will be an equal parent and guardian and can be listed on the birth certificate.
Labels are funny things - especially those for sexual orientation. In RL practice I'm pretty much exclusively lesbian, with a penchant for the 'fluffy butch' type... but given my crushes on various non-RL male-types I tend to identify foremost as queer femme with a kink for sparkly banter.
But gender IMO is vital - especially when it's transgressive or fluid. It may have little bearing on attraction as a physical thing but for me it sings deeply as a spiritual aspect that has little to do with what genitals people have. Of course, one of my favourite things to do is perform as a drag queen (ie: me with my real breasts in queen-y makeup with stubble and sideburns while wearing short sparkly frocks and packing), so I'm of the 'gender is performative' school of thought.
As for love... IMO English doesn't have enough ways to define what 'in love' means, especially as we all experience it so differently. So what you believe is what matters.
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Labels are funny things - especially those for sexual orientation. In RL practice I'm pretty much exclusively lesbian, with a penchant for the 'fluffy butch' type... but given my crushes on various non-RL male-types I tend to identify foremost as queer femme with a kink for sparkly banter.
But gender IMO is vital - especially when it's transgressive or fluid. It may have little bearing on attraction as a physical thing but for me it sings deeply as a spiritual aspect that has little to do with what genitals people have. Of course, one of my favourite things to do is perform as a drag queen (ie: me with my real breasts in queen-y makeup with stubble and sideburns while wearing short sparkly frocks and packing), so I'm of the 'gender is performative' school of thought.
As for love... IMO English doesn't have enough ways to define what 'in love' means, especially as we all experience it so differently. So what you believe is what matters.